Sooooo...Do y'all remember last year when I was all perplexed when my cousin asked me to sing at her third wedding? How I didn't want to lend my chords to the farce I felt she as creating? Weeeeeellll, I hate to say "I told you so" but...
I WASN'T WRONG!!
Mama told me yesterday dear cousin has kicked her sham of a husband to the curb. Dear cousin's all distraught because it took her so long to realize what a bum he is and how he just used her and blah, blah, blah. Does it make me a terrible person that I don't feel any sympathy for her at all?
Maybe if it had been her first marriage. Or maybe if I didn't know the background of their relationship. Or maybe if everyone and their brother hadn't tried to warn her. Maybe then I'd feel badly for her. Thankfully they didn't make any babies during their year and four months together and her kids dislike him enough to be relieved that he's gone.
I think dear cousin is just one of those people who can't stand being alone. Being single, to her, is a nightmare. So she jumps at and grasps "love" wherever/whenever she can regardless of what she must know the end result will be. I would admire her willingness to continue to put herself out there in hopes of finding true love if I didn't wish so hard that she (and others) would take the time to really learn how to truly love.
Because love is blind until it isn't. Don't get married until after the
blinders come off. Make your big decisions with both eyes wide open.
If he's the love of your life for realz? You'll love him even more when
you can see and appreciate ALL his flaws. True love is not only knowing and loving despite the flaws and scars but loving the flaws and scars, too. Kinda like Mark Darcy in Bridget Jones' Diary
when he lists all her most undesirable qualities and then says, "I like
you just the way you are." Well, true love is like that. Knowing and seeing the
flaws and loving "just the way you are."
But look at me. The life-long single chick who knows nothing of love and relationships. Who do I think I am to spout off ideas of what love and marriage should look like?